Romans 2:29 says, “But he is a Jew who is one inwardly; and circumcision is that which is of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the letter; and his praise is not from men, but from God.” The true believer seeks praise from God instead of praise from men.
Jesus preached about this in the Sermon on the Mount. Matthew 6:1 says, “Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is in heaven.” Verses 2 through 4 tell us that when we give to the poor, we are to do it secretly. Our giving is a good thing, and we will be rewarded for it, in one of two ways. If we give so others can see and admire our giving, then our reward is the admiration of others. However, if we give secretly, “your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.” We can choose the glory and admiration from sinful men, or eternal rewards from God.
Likewise, verses 5 and 6 say that the same is true for prayer. We are told not to pray so that we “will be heard for (our) many words.” Instead we are to go into a closet; close the door; and, then pray to God and “your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.” Again, we are free to choose our reward–from men or from God.
Verses 16 to 18 say the same for fasting. We are to fast, but not to “be noticed by men.” If we do, we already have (our) reward in full” (from men). We are to fast in secret. Then “… your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.”
For the maximum eternal heavenly rewards, the Christian is to do things anonymously. This is true even after death: A believer’s headstone should have his name, birth date, and death date. That’s all. It shouldn’t tell how good of a husband or father he was. In fact, it would probably be best not to even have a headstone, or to have a blank one. If anything, it should have a verse from the Bible that glorifies God–not the man. Maybe something like Jude 25: “To the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.”